Why are we here? And what shall we do about it while we are?

Comedy writer John Lloyd said that there are only two questions worth asking in his TED talk titled "inventories the invisible":

Why are we here? And what shall we do about it while we are?

To help answering these two questions, he quoted two philosophers. One is Ludwig Wittgenstein, who said: “I don't know why we are here, but I'm pretty sure that it is not in order to enjoy ourselves.” Another one is W. H. Auden, who said: “We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don't know.”

It was a funny 10 minutes talk. However, the two questions are very serious. We tend to ask ourselves all the time. My own take on these two questions is that we should not ask the first question at all.

If you have a strong will to live and are having a good time here on earth, why should you bother asking “why are you here”? For example, if you go to a party and are enjoying yourself, would you be asking “Why am I here”? By asking “why am I here” might get you kicked out of the party. It is a question which gets asked when we are depressed.

If you do not ask yourself the first question, then the answer to the 2nd question shall come quite easily. I shall have a good time for as long as possible. Or in other words, I shall have a happy and pleasurable life for as long as possible.

There are many interpretations regarding what is a happy and pleasurable life. I find mine so close to Epicurus, it makes me wonder whether I had read Epicurus in Chinese translation when I was a teen and forgot about it. He counseled his disciples to live a quiet, secretive life apart from society, avoiding responsibilities in public life or social life. This avoids the pain of ambition and fear caused by others. The highest good in Epicureanism is ataraxia, a tranquility derived by the absence of agitation. And the highest positive pleasure is a society of good friends.

This is the simple life I prefer.

A woman stole from me

A woman just stole two necklaces from me in the store. I was following her with my eyes and then I took my eyes away for a minute to give her some privacy. When I started to look at her again, I noticed one of the necklaces she touched went missing. So I asked her to tell me where she placed it (I was giving her a chance to put it back). She could have said "Oh, I am sorry, I misplaced it here". She could have taken the jewelry out of her pocket and put it on the shelf (I was sure that she dropped into her pocket). Instead, she pretended that she did not understand what I was talking about. So I said to her "You just took a necklace from me, please put it back". She ran out of the door and left. After she was gone, I noticed a 2nd necklace was missing also.

I do not think that she will ever come back to the store, even though one can never be sure. I used to manage a Salvation Army store, and caught a few thieves and banned them from the store. But they kept coming back and kept stealing.

By the way, there is an interesting talk by Dan Ariely regarding stealing, if you care to listen to.

Keep your mind open

According to Beau Lotto, all creatures, from honeybees to humans, came to see the world not as it is, but as what proved useful. If you believe in what he demonstrates, keeping your mind open should enable you to see way more.

I am a firm believer of this concept when it comes to opportunities. For those whose mind is open, they see opportunities everywhere. For those others whose mind is closed, they see obstacles instead.

To keep one’s mind open, you have to be willing to put yourself in a vulnerable situation, which is very scary sometimes. Therefore, I am using the Daily Reminder, which is like a personal mantra, to help centering myself and to believe that the universe is benevolent and abundant. Once you have aligned yourself with the positive energy of the universe, you can then see and seize opportunities that come along the way.

Today, we bought a few shares of U.S. stocks that pay about 7% dividend in average. It is true the value of stocks could go down in short term. I do not believe that the value will go down in 8 year, which is about a full economic cycle. We are going to keep these stocks for 8 years or more, therefore, I see today’s purchase as a great opportunity seized to park your cash in high yield investment (7% versus 1% in savings account).

Another point I wish to add here for future reference. According to gurufocus.com, as of today, the Total Market Index is at $ 11067.6 billion, which is about 78.2% of the last reported GDP. The market is therefore considered fairly valued. In our case with real estate, we only bought fairly valued properties and still did very well.

Self Discipline – the 2nd most important aspect of success

In my last blog “Is it harder to attain success than to maintain it?”, we have established that it is equally hard to maintain success as to attain it. There is no standing still. Success is a continuous journey, as Einstein said it: “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.”
We have also pointed out that the most important aspect of success is to continuously set and re-set goals. However, setting these goals was not enough. We have to work on them.

Therefore we bring about the 2nd most important aspect of success, self discipline or the ability to delay gratification. Unfortunately, it seems that only one third of pre-school children have been taught this skill as illustrated by the video of Joachim de Posada from TED talks “Don't eat the marshmallow yet”.

How do we achieve self discipline?

There are many different ways to help us to achieve self discipline. One way of achieving self discipline is to intelligently cultivate our mind so that only intended actions will spring forth.

Then, we have to remind ourselves our goals constantly. On our way to our destination, there are many distractions we encounter. We must constantly remind ourselves where we are going in order not to get lost. The first emperor of China had himself reminded every day that his destiny was to unite China. So he was able to do unpleasant tasks that were needed to achieve his destiny.

Right now, my focus is health. So I have my Daily Reminder, which is to deal with stress. Then I have a list of daily routines that I tick off after I accomplish each one.

Hope you enjoy reading this article.

Recharging

In the journey of self improvement, I tried to observe my own thoughts. However, in the last few days, my thoughts are chaotic and clouded. Actions are kept at minimum. You can say that I look and act somewhat depressed.

We have reached a point where we have envisioned ourselves to be. We have a place to stay, food to eat, no debt and have savings. In other word, we have simple comfortable life money can buy without ever having to work for anyone else for the rest of our life.

So why am I feeling down?

Some people might say that it is only normal that we have ups and downs. When we are down we needed to be re-charged like those batteries.

Batteries are recharged with electricity. How do we get re-charged? The followings are some of things I used to do:

1) Take a vacation.
2) Change hair style/color
3) Stay in bed
4) Read something interesting
5) Watch a movie

This time I watched a video clip of John Maeda on simplicity from TED talks, which lifted me up a lot.


C-Cassia