relaxation is the key

For a year now, I have embarked on this mental training thing. I have read “Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life” and “The Science of Getting Rich” a few times. Do I have control over my own mind? Not yet. But at least I feel more relaxed, feel and look healthier.

For those who have not heard of Maxwell Maltz’s Psycho-Cybernetics, I highly recommend it, even though it is an old book (first pocket books were printed in 1969).

The following is a summary I put together for the book:

We all have a self image whether we know it consciously or not and all our actions and behaviors are in consistent with this self image we hold. Therefore, our happiness and success (or lack of) are consistent with this self image. The good news is that this self image can be modified or changed so that we can live a happier and more successful life. Since our mind does not distinguish what is a real experience and what is imagined, we can imagine good and positive things. That is the first key to change self image.

For your mind to accept your imagination, we must be totally relaxed and the imagination must be vivid. Relaxation is a theme that runs through the whole book. It helps to accelerate learning, reduce stress and live healthier. This book shows you how to do relaxation and imagination exercises.

To change your self image, you also must remove old emotional scars. Forgiveness is the way to remove those scars. Forgiveness is very easy to do, because there is nothing for you to do, as there must be condemnation before forgiveness is necessary. We find it difficult to forgive only because we like our sense of condemnation and our sense of feeling sorry for ourselves. True forgiveness comes when we are able to see, and emotionally accept, that we should not have condemned or hated the other person in the first place.

You must also learn to forgive yourself. Recognize your own errors as mistakes, but do not beat yourself down with self-condemnation, remorse and regret. You make mistakes - mistakes do not make you.